You're right. Everyone has a right to be an individual, even if they have children, but the fact that your husband is ignoring his responsibilities as a husband and father is wrong. Your husband should be making quality time with you and your child. It's ok for him to have friends, but he needs to realize that when you make the commitment of marrying someone and starting a family with them, you are essentially making a commitment to CHANGE YOUR LIFE. Because the fact is when you get married and have children you are taking on the responsiblities of a new life. Yeah, giving up the good ol' days and the good ol' traditions is kind of a sad thing that you have to part with. But everyone goes through it. It's part of GROWING UP. If he didn't want to give those things up he should never have gotten married and had a kid with you. It seems like he's trying to have the best of both worlds, but doesn't realize that he is neglecting his family for the other option.

I can't really give you any advice because I dont have a child or a husband, but I can sympathize with you and tell you that it's not just your imagination. Anyone with a brain can see that it's wrong of him to be doing what he's doing. Now it's up to you to do/say something about it, especially if it continues. I hope all goes well with you!